Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Shalom and welcome to New Jewish Dad. I'm Jacob Sager, father of five. Today we're talking about how fatherhood can be a powerful catalyst for personal growth and change. While it's easy to focus on all the ways you need to show up for your child, let's not forget this incredible opportunity for self discovery and development that comes with your new role. Jewish tradition places a high value on lifelong learning and growth. The Talmud states, who is wise One who learns from every person? This suggests that wisdom isn't a static quality, but something we cultivate through ongoing curiosity and openness to new experiences.
[00:00:39] Fatherhood is perhaps one of the most transformative experiences a man can go through. It challenges us to confront our own beliefs, our patterns of behavior. And it forces us to strive to be the best role model for our children. It invites us to reevaluate our priorities, to consider what really matters in life, and to grow in ways we never could have imagined before.
[00:01:03] So how can we embrace this opportunity for personal growth? First, approach fatherhood with a beginner's mind. Be open to learning from your child, your partner, and the experience itself. Let go of the notion that you need to have all the answers and instead embrace this journey of discovery.
[00:01:21] Second, take time for self reflection.
[00:01:24] Journal about your experience as a father, the challenges you face, and the lessons you're learning. Consider what kind of father you want to be and what values you want to instill in your child.
[00:01:36] Third, seek out support and wisdom from others. Connect with other fathers, whether through local groups or online communities.
[00:01:46] Read books and articles about parenting and personal development. Don't be afraid to ask for help or advice when you need it. I remember when my first child was born. I was confronted with all these parts of myself I hadn't fully examined before. My wife was too with herself. I realized I had a lot of work to do in terms of managing my own stress, communicating more effectively, and being more present.
[00:02:12] It wasn't always comfortable, but it was always a meaningful catalyst for my growth. I started meditating, going to therapy, and really just working on who I wanted to become.
[00:02:24] And you know what? It didn't really just make me a better father. It helped me become more of who I want to be, which includes being a better father. So remember, growth is never a straight line. There are days where you feel like you're crushing this whole fatherhood thing, and others where you feel like you're barely worthy of being a dad at all. It's all part of the process. The key is to keep showing up, to keep learning and to keep striving to be the best version of yourself for the sake of your children.
[00:02:53] This is Jacob Sager reminding you that fatherhood is one of the greatest adventures you'll ever embark on. Embrace the challenges and know that you're growing in ways you can't imagine. You're crushing it, dude. Until next time. Shalom.
